12 Steps to Christian Living at its Best

by Scotty Gurule on August 14, 2019

Purpose: To help any individual of any age make the most of their potential with dynamic, biblically-based, motivating principles that can change their life. This exposure helps discover how to achieve New Goals in the spiritual and personal areas of their life.


1. Decide What You Want.

This first step is pointing to the importance of setting goals in life. In his letter to the church of Philippi, the Apostle Paul points out the value in setting course with vision and looking forward not behind. Remember, YOU HAVE MORE FUTURE AHEAD OF YOU THAN PAST BEHIND YOU! You're at your best when you have eyes facing forward.

"What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in[a] Christ—the righteousness that comes from God on the basis of faith. I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead. Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead" — Philippians 3:8-13

2. Be Willing to Pay the Price.

A price must be paid to reach a goal. Success depends on how willing you are to pay the price. Anything worth value requires a price to be paid. The greater the value the great the price. Why would it be any different with your walk with Christ? 

“Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you"  Luke 14:28-29

"Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me."  Matthew 16:24

3. Ask For It.

The importance of asking and persevering. We don't need to beg God, but we do need to learn how to ask! He is a good Father and whatever we ASK we can receive. The key is asking. The power is in our tongue. We must recognize and learn the POWER locked inside our speaking and asking. ASK, SEEK, KNOCK... 

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you." — Matthew 7:7

"If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you." — John 15:7

4. Get Excited!

Life has a downward pull on us—enthusiasm is needed to counter that pull. If you wonder what there is to be excited about while looking around you in your present or considering your past... STOP! Get excited about the future! Get excited about all the great things God has ready and waiting for you in your tomorrow. Remember that His mercy is new every morning and something GREAT is ahead!

"The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day." — Proverbs 4:18

"Even the youths shall faint and be weary, And the young men shall utterly fall, But those who wait on the Lord Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint." — Isaiah 40:30-31

5. Expect to Get it.

Whatever the mind harbors, the body manifests. Choose positive behavior instead of always reacting. Whatever you expect will eventually be your reality! To BE at your best, you must THINK your best. Henry Ford said it best, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can'tyou're right,”

"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." — Philippians 4:13

"Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord." — Romans 8:37-39

6. Don’t Demand!

Asking and demanding is not the same. The way we ask is crucial to receiving. We do not need to beg God, and we do not need to demand of God. Remember, God is God. He created ALL! Become okay with God answering your ask with a "NO" because you ultimately should trust His timing and direction in your life. He knows best! He has your best interest in mind. To be at your best, you must trust God!

"For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and clothing, with these we shall be content." — 1 Timothy 6:7-8

"Submitting to one another in the fear(reverence) of God." — Ephesians 5:21

7. Accept What is. stop resisting reality!

To be able to enjoy what we get, we must learn to accept the reality of the present and be content in an imperfect world. Stop looking for a magic mirror on a wall to tell you who you are and face the music. Face reality square off! Accept it, change what's needed, and begin to enjoy the things you're missing right in front of you. 

“You have heard that it was said,‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also. And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away." — Matthew 5:38-42

8. Accept Who You Are—stop Comparing!

We must learn to accept ourselves, and by excepting ourselves, we begin to grow. Love who God made you as you are. You are unique and you are uniquely called by God. Every thumbprint on this planet is different yet we are made in God's image! Stop comparing yourself to others because they are not the "you" that God indented YOU to be. You're at your best when you learn to love and appreciate yourself and God's creative design and plan for you!

"But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another." — Galatians 6:4 

"Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, let us prophesy in proportion to our faith; or ministry, let us use it in our ministering; he who teaches, in teaching;  he who exhorts, in exhortation; he who gives, with liberality; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy, with cheerfulness — Romans 12:6-8

9. Accept Responsibility—Stop Blaming.

All personal growth stops when we start to blame others. This goes all the way back to the garden of Eden when Adam immediately shifted his blame onto Eve, then she onto the serpent. The blame game is at the root of humanity "fall" and it will be the root of your failure as well. You will be at your best when you learn to take responsibility and own up to any and all lack, failure, and mistakes in your life. 

"For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad." — 2 Corinthians 5:10 

"And lest I should be exalted above measure by the abundance of the revelations, a thorn in the flesh was given to me, a messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I be exalted above measure. Concerning this thing, I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from me. And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong." — 2 Corinthians 12:7-10

10. Change Bitterness to Blessing—stop holding grudges!

Forgiving others is essential before we can attain a freer, happier life. The middle part of the word says it all — "GIVE" — and when you give the forgiveness as a gift, even when it's undeserved, there is a blessing attached! Holding grudges will only hold you back and hold you down. Let Go! Bitterness will grow into a deep-seated root that is hard to dig up. Bitterness and un-forgiveness come between you and God! You are at your worst when you are bitter and you are at your best when you forgive!

"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." — Matthew 6:14-15

11. Be Grateful—Stop complaining!

The quest for more, better and newer things is endless. The real key is to be thankful in every circumstance. Gratefulness, gratitude, and thanks are always preceded by incredible God moments and miracles in the stories of the bible. Complaining always produces the opposite. Choose to be grateful. The most moving and powerful words on the planet are "THANK YOU" — who will you choose to be?

"I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need." — Philippians 4:12 

"This is the day the Lord has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it." — Psalm 118:24

12. Keep On Loving—even when you don’t get what you Expected.

Though all principles are followed, we may still not get what we want. The key is to continue to love and to care. Love is God's answer and the key to everything in this life. Keep loving, keep forgiving, keep trusting, keep believing... all things are the fruit of loves root! Jacob loved Rachel and was willing to keep "working" beyond his expectations not being met. His love for her made what should have been really hard EASY. We are at our best when we choose to love INSTEAD.

"Jacob was in love with Rachel and said, “I’ll work for you seven years in return for your younger daughter Rachel.” — Genesis 29:18 

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." — John 13:35

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